Is your love life not going how you want?
If you’re not getting the results you want from the effort you put in, I hear you.
I felt the same way when I was single and wanting to find a great guy.
I was exhausted and frustrated.
In order to get different results, you want to date differently and change your approach.
You want to make sure that you have dealt with the past and made peace with it in terms of your childhood and your past relationships, until you have fully healed in these areas, you are going to run into dead ends and be triggered along the way.
Invest in self development daily where on your own or with a coach.
You want to be sure that you truly value yourself and feel you’re worthy of genuine, real love. You also want to be proactively improving each area of your life in order to be as happy as possible while you design the life that you enjoy living. You want to be attracting a similar type of person who is doing the same in their life. This way you don’t look to anyone else to do the internal work for you.
Become the bouncer of your own dating life.
Remember, you have a lot more control than you think you do. You say who, you say when.
Screen each person before you let them in. Make sure that they belong in your club.
If you do a thorough check and they past the test, let them in. If you find for any reason that this person is no longer allowed in your club, do a sweep and get them out immediately.
Your standards should be high but not to the point where no one could meet your expectations and you’re constantly disappointed.
You want to aim for getting about 90% of what you do want and that 10% left over should be qualities or traits that you can deal with, they cannot be deal breakers. Unfortunately there are tradeoffs and again, you won’t get everything you want but you should be getting most of what you want and how you’re treated should never be compromised no matter what.
Don’t put so much pressure on yourself to find someone.
When you start putting the pressure on yourself, this is when desperation and often neediness can peak through and this is where a lot of mistakes are made. You’re not making decisions from a heart centered place.
It’s easy to compare yourself to other people but focus on you.
When you’re busy with your own life and achieving your own goals, you don’t have time to look at what other people are doing.
You’ve got this.
Love is out there for you.