Attracting a potential partner isn’t the hard part, attracting a GREAT potential partner is the hard part.
If you’re down about being single, you see happy couples everywhere holding hands and kissing and all you want to do is karate chop their hands apart and yell love sucks in their faces.
Then you go home and you open your computer and you see everyone on social media getting engaged and posting their perfect wedding photos. Put the ice cream down and read these 4 changes you can make in your life right now to attract the right kind of partner for you.
1. Explore all opportunities
You want to explore all opportunities that come your way. People say it’s a numbers game but going on dates with as many people as possible is going to leave you exhausted and frustrated.
I always stress quality, not quantity. Put yourself out there and enjoy conversation with all types of people, don’t be afraid to go outside of your comfort zone a bit. See what the conversation is like and decide how you feel, doesn’t mean you need to give your number or go on a date.
2. Be more open minded
Sometimes we get stuck on the idea of an ideal person becoming quite rigid and specific. We often do this without even realizing it, boxing ourselves in and limiting our options.
If what you’ve been doing up to this point hasn’t worked for you then it’s time to shake things up and be more open minded about who you’re not only pursuing but also going on dates with.
If not, you’ll end up stuck in a repeated pattern of dating the same type of person over and over until you start to widen your net and experience some variety. We don’t know what we don’t know so dating someone a bit different from what you’ve experienced in the past may surprise you, in a really good way.
3. Trust your instincts
We pursue relationships that have red flags all over it from the beginning and often in retrospect we know that we completely ignored our instincts because often we see what we want to see and not what we actually see.
We make excuses; we justify our feelings because there is something appealing about this person, so we want to make things work. The problem is that this becomes a square peg, round hole situation where we try so hard to make something work that just doesn’t. It sucks, but it’s out of our control.
Have honest internal dialogue and hold yourself accountable to the kind of person you’re looking for, how you want to be treated, how you want to feel around them and don’t deviate.
4. Enjoy the process
Your mindset can make the dating process fun and exciting or draining and frustrating. It is all in your attitude and your outlook.
Being single is not a curse. It’s a great time to focus on yourself, self reflect and get into a healthy headspace before opening up your life to someone else.
When you take the pressure off yourself, screen properly before dates and choose quality over quantity you can actually have a really enjoyable dating experience.
When you begin to make smart choices for yourself and you feel empowered, happy and in a peaceful place, this is when love finds you. Be patient, start proactively incorporating these changes into your dating life immediately and enjoy the ride.